1. Purpose of TruAlign in Marriage Ministry
- Provide a structured way to surface truth early, before harm deepens.
- Reduce the risk of silence becoming the default strategy for coping.
- Support integrity as the foundation for any repair that is possible.
- Help leaders hold clarity without forcing conclusions.
- Emphasize discernment over urgency, especially when emotions are uneven.
2. How TruAlign Fits Different Ministry Contexts
- Premarital discernment: a framework to clarify values, expectations, and alignment before commitment.
- Marriage enrichment: a way to name patterns without prescribing outcomes or blaming either partner.
- Reconciliation pathways: a tool for truth and accountability without promises of restoration.
- Post-divorce integrity rebuilding: support for grief, dignity, and future dating clarity.
- All contexts: participation is voluntary, and no one is required to share responses.
3. Introducing TruAlign to Groups (Scripts)
- Male facilitator script:
- “This is not counseling and it is not a test you pass or fail.”
- “TruAlign helps you see patterns and values without forcing a decision.”
- “You can engage at your pace. No one is required to share personal results.”
- Female facilitator script:
- “This is a clarity tool, not a pressure tool.”
- “You are free to move slowly and to protect your dignity while you discern.”
- “Nothing shared here is required, and no one is asked to disclose what they are not ready to name.”
4. Male and Female Pathways (Important Section)
- Men may struggle with avoidance, shame, or delayed insight, especially when identity feels tied to performance or provision.
- Women may struggle with safety, trust erosion, or emotional exhaustion, especially after carrying relational labor alone.
- These are patterns, not rules; each person’s story remains primary.
- Different timelines are normal and do not imply superior or inferior commitment.
- Facilitators should protect each person’s pace without placing moral weight on speed.
5. What Facilitators Should Never Do
- Interpret individual results or assign meaning to another person’s responses.
- Push reconciliation or imply that repair is the faithful outcome.
- Demand disclosure or pressure participants to share personal content.
- Report private responses to leadership or create informal records.
6. How to Handle Difficult Moments
- When a participant becomes overwhelmed:
- Acknowledge their experience and offer a pause without spotlighting them.
- Remind the group that participation is voluntary and personal pace is respected.
- When one partner wants clarity and the other is not ready:
- Normalize different timelines without labeling either partner as resistant.
- Encourage space for individual discernment without pushing alignment.
- When outcomes diverge:
- Affirm dignity for both partners and keep the group from framing one as “right.”
- Encourage pastoral follow-up if either partner asks for further support.
7. Referral Language (Pastor-Safe)
- “This may be a place where a counselor or pastor can support you more directly.”
- “If this brings up pain or confusion, we can connect you with pastoral care.”
- “You do not have to carry this alone, and it is okay to seek professional support.”
8. Ethical Guardrails
- Consent: participation must be voluntary at every step.
- Autonomy: no one is required to reach the same conclusion.
- Confidentiality: facilitators do not collect or share individual responses.
- Non-coercion: no spiritual, relational, or group pressure to disclose or decide.
9. Closing Guidance for Leaders
- Lead with humility rather than certainty.
- Protect pace rather than forcing outcomes.
- Trust discernment over control.
- Remember that integrity, not speed, is the measure of health.
10. Church Access Verification (Recommended)
Method 1 - Church email + attestation
Why this works:
- Respect
- Low friction
- Abuse resistance
- Speed to launch
What you ask for (simple form):
- Church name
- Role (Pastor / Associate Pastor / Minister)
- Church website
- Church email address (preferred)
Verification logic:
- If email domain matches church website domain, auto-approve
- Otherwise, manual review (spot check)
Attestation checkbox:
"I confirm that I currently serve in a pastoral or ministerial role at the organization listed above."
Signature ___________________ Date ____________
Method 2 - Website + directory cross-check (manual)
Use this when:
- Email domain does not match
- Small churches
- Independent pastors
You:
- Click church website
- Look for "Staff", "Leadership", or "About"
- Confirm name appears
This takes 30–60 seconds per request.
You only need to do this early on.
Later, patterns emerge and approvals get faster.
Suggested metadata capture:
metadata: {
verified_role: 'pastor',
verification_method: 'email_domain',
}
Pastor Access (Courtesy Rate)
TruAlign offers a courtesy rate for pastors and ministry leaders in recognition of their service and counseling roles.
Verification is simple and respectful - typically requiring only confirmation of your role and church affiliation.
"Pastor Access is offered as a courtesy rate for active ministry leaders. TruAlign reserves the right to revoke this rate if eligibility changes."
If revoked:
- Remove coupon on next billing cycle
- Subscription stays active
- Price normalizes
